While I was sitting in the salon, wrapped in a black cape and answering the usual questions of 'how many kids do you have', 'are you going to have any more', and 'do you stay home', I got a comment that I've heard a couple times before: "you are so lucky to get to stay home with your kids!"
I've been thinking about that.
Yes, I am 'lucky' if you like that term. I feel very fortunate and blessed to have a hard working husband who can provide for us, as well as a partner that fully supports me as a stay-at-home mom. I saw a sign in a friend's house recently that read "Begin each day with a grateful heart". I love that! So yes, I am very grateful I get to be the one to raise my kids. With seven beautiful children, I have so much to be thankful for each and every day.
But... At the same time, I am not 'lucky' to be a stay-at-home mom. It takes work. It was our (Dean's and my) choice; a choice that took, and still takes, sacrifices on our part to make happen.
We make our kids our priority.
That means we don't have as much money to spend on holidays, birthday parties, and vacations. It means that we live in a modest small home and drive older cars. It means that our kids wear hand-me-downs and that our scarred furniture continues to serve us well. It means that I wear old and faded jeans rather than the latest fashions. It means my days are filled with oft mundane tasks of laundry, sweeping, and mopping.
But more importantly, it means that I get to be the one to kiss owies and welcome the kids home from school! I get to watch the baby take his first steps and I get to read stories to the kids! I get to choose how to discipline and I get to instill the values we find important. I get to reap the rewards of raising our children!
And I love it! Like I told the hairstylist, it's exactly what I want to be doing.
Lucky or not, I made a choice, and it continues to be a choice that I find worth the sacrifices
Because I have to include a picture.
And because I photograph these kids the least
since it's their teachers and not me that gets to enjoy them during the week day.